Ever feel stuck?
I certainly have and I am feeling stuck right now. I have had so many false starts with this edition of Unearthed. I have started to write about being yourself, about how to communicate more clearly, about getting curious about anger – yours and other people’s. With each one, I have written three sentences and then nothing more comes.
My first instincts are to push up against it.
When feeling stuck. My first instincts are to push up against it, to make it wrong, to question myself and my ability, and to catastrophize – “I will never get this written”. I have got up for a cup of tea, checked my Facebook feed, my email and my instant messenger. None of that helped me to get unstuck. I was about to go and find someone to complain
What if I just embrace my stuckness and see what happens?
What I notice is my words are flowing. I don’t really have to think too hard. The next words just seem to come. Perhaps I was not stuck at all. I was just forcing myself to write about something that wasn’t quite ready to be written.
So often we fight against ourselves. We push away what actually wants our attention. We try to force things to happen that just aren’t quite ready to blossom. It can leave us feeling frustrated.
What are you pushing against right now?
What if you just welcomed it in, sat with it for a while and see what unfolds?
Just being with something, naming it and getting curious about it can transform it, and can help you move through it. Sometimes what we believe about ourselves at any given moment is just not true. I believed I was stuck, I pivoted and discovered it just wasn’t true.
Remember you are amazing. You are capable. You are unique and what you believe about your circumstances may not be true.
Alison
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